BUSY BUSY BUSY!!!!

Oh my gosh! I am so busy! But doing what? I honestly have NO idea! Life just sometimes gets in the way and all of a sudden your 19 weeks pregnant.... and then you don't know where time went. Its crazy! AND yes! 19 weeks! I am about a week/5 days ahead of schedule. Little man is growing SO fast!
Oh! Little man has a name! Drum roll PLEASE............................Archer!!!!
Archer Bennett Harding.
My little Mango! He is the size of a mango this week in case anyone is confused  by that statement.
Next week (week 20) he will  be a cantaloupe!
HOLY MOLY
I feel like I am so HUGE! But, of course I am just getting started!
Which brings me to our next topic.... Things NOT to say or do to pregnant woman, especially this one:

---"WOW! Are you sure there aren't twins in there?!"
Yes... I do realize that you think you are hilarious in saying that, but its not funny.

--- "Are you sure your only 19 weeks?"
Oh no.... I don't think I am... I am so glad you think I look bigger than I am though, how kind of you!

--- "You are so paranoid"
Ummmm you have never been pregnant. Back off.

--- " Oh, just wait till the baby gets here"
Well, I am..... and since we have different veiws on how life works I am pretty sure that I will still feel the same about this situation... Thanks though!

---Touch my belly and I will kill you! I don't touch yours! But if you reach your hands out to rub me like I am some magic geanie lamp I will be sure to start patting your belly too! Then we can see how much you like it.

---Trying to give me advice on baby names. Ya, I don't think so. Just because you don't like his name, doens't mean you can show disgust. Personally every person who has done this has a VERY common and boring name. So if you have an opinion that is negative towards the name ARCHER keep it to yourself. Or you can consider yourself on my 'list'

---Unwanted pregnancy advice from already parents, and never been parents.
When you get pregnant EVERYONE and their dog feels like its their place to give you advice, and share stories of their pregnancy, or someone they knew and their pregnancy.... or what they read online or in a book anout someones pregnancy.
For one thing. EVERY PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT!
So if you have never heard of somthing that is happening in MY pregnancy that doesnt mean its bad, or good, or whatever. It just means once again, that everyone is different.
So stop telling me what I should and shouldn't do during pregnancy.

---Don't just assume because we are close, or you are family that you will be in the delivery room, or get to come to see us after Archer is born at the hospital.
The only people aloud to see me before-during-after labour is Callan, and my mom.
And if I (not callan) decide I want a bunch of people swarming me and my child after he is born I will let you all know. But if and ONLY if I do decide that will you be invited personally by me. So if you don't get a personal invite from ME, to come up to the hospital than I am sorry. No hard feelings and its nothing personal. Its just that Callan, me and Archer need to bond. And I just had a baby. So sorry if  I dont feel up to seeing anyone, or sharing MY son with anyone just yet. As of right now NO ONE, grandparents and family included unless I give aproval (my mom since she will be there for delivery) will be aloud at the hospital. Also Please quit saying you have a RIGHT to be there, becasue you DONT. Also, stop telling me I will change my mind. Because I know me, and I wont. You can all wait until, once again you are INVITED to our HOME. And I will put no time frame on how long it will be for me to extend an invite to you.
So be patient and get over yourself if your going to cause drama out of this! You know exactly who you are!!!!

----Unwanted parenting advice
Just dont.

I have been judged, hated, critisized, and everything negative for the choices I am decided to make with my family. I'm very irritated and just done putting up with the annoying, and unsupportive people in my life. And my beautiful husband agrees witht me! The way we see it, is that if you don't agree with us, or our lifestyle keep your mouth shut! And if you can't than we will no longer have your posionous negativity posioning our lives. We are bringing a baby into this world, and we both want to protect him from the vile and judgmental people in world, for as long as we can. If that be friends, extended family, or even immediate family. Archer, Callan, and I only need peace, love and happiness in our life, and if you don't fit that critereia than you will be limited, or gone from our lives.
Its not an easy choice to make, but I have another life to care for. And as hard as it may be sometimes, my son will be protected.
I already love my little man so much. And I am already VERY protective of him, as you can probably tell by this post! So like The Beatles say: All you need is love.